Very young children trust without a second thought. Actually, it’s not really trust. They don’t know what that is yet. They are moving through life in explorer mode. They are learning new things every day. When a parent, some other adult, or an older sibling says they will do something, the child believes them.
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The child doesn’t understand betrayal. Then eventually, that’s what happens, either accidentally or intentionally. Sometimes the first betrayal of trust occurs with a playmate. A promise is made, or aspects of a relationship are assumed. Then something happens which causes the child to feel hurt, confused, angry, and unsure about what happened. Why would their best friend do something like this? This is their introduction to broken trust.